YOU SHOULD not BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF

The strong need for connection in people is sometimes tied to prior shame. We use this external shame as a mask to not connect with ourselves because of the shame associated with our hurts habits and hangups. This shame reinforces our hurts H.H.&H. and keeps the stronghold of our H.H.& H. in tact.

Shame is a place to hide and not love self. Our failures are reinforcement of our shame.
Shame is always self inflicted. It is a means of escape.
To break the stronghold of SHAME you must separate the past behavior and realize and define who you are now.

INHERENT SHAME such as family shame of others is most destructive to a person. Family sectrets wil lead you into a shame driven life. Trust issues may plague your life unless the shame is faced and dealt with.

Shame hidden will cjocke you and keep you from being happy. You can not function and be hapy with shameful secrets.
The pain of shame is the very thing that feeds the pain of the shame. WOW!!!
SHAME produces perfectionalism, isolationalism, and distrust in people. WOW WOW!!!!
People shamed in thier life may become very critical of others to cover their own failures and shame. OMG!!!
Shame can also affect your motivation to succeed.
Other peoples perception of you can lead to fakeness to hide your shame. WOW!!!

As humans we mostly connect by our imperfections not our perfections.
You are NOT defined by your shame but by your secrets associated with your shame.
Being molested could leave you powerless, shameful and lead to a life of control.
Shame is pervative and we must confront it at all times.

Shame can prevent forgiveness and our H.H.& H. reinforce our unforgiveness.

THEIR IS HOPE FOR US IN OUR SHAME

1. Opening our life to allow love to be poured in is the best way to conquor shame.

2. To admit your shame is to admit you are human.

3. Stop judging and being critical. Forgive others and yourself.

4. Shame can be hadled also by protecting yourself from others shame.

5. Shame is a lie you must confront at all times to break it's stronghold on your life.

6. Confront the shame, shift the behavior, set bounderies, quit apologizing, build self esteem.

7. Separate your shame from your guilt and face them both separately.

GBY ALL

Jim.